Table of contents
Share Post

What do You do when the Trust is Gone?

Welcome to the Sexual Wellness for Women Podcast – your trusted resource for sexual wellness during menopause and different stages of life. I’m your host, Allie, a board-certified sexologist and certified integrative wellness coach. As I pursue my PhD in mind-body medicine, I’m dedicated to providing you with the knowledge, tools, and support you need to navigate the complexities of sexual wellness.

As a sexologist and integrative wellness coach, I combine scientific knowledge with a compassionate and holistic approach. I believe in the power of mind-body connection and the transformative potential of embracing our unique sexual selves. Together, we’ll navigate through the complexities and debunk myths surrounding sexual wellness during menopause and different life stages.

So, whether you’re in the midst of menopause, perimenopause, or simply seeking guidance on sexual wellness, this podcast is for you. It’s time to prioritize your sexual well-being and embrace the vibrant, confident, and fulfilled woman you are.

Today is Thursday, 10/05/2023 –thank you for tuning in and giving me a listen.

And don’t forget if you like this episode, please give it a 5-star rating, review or share with 3 friends!


It can disrupt the natural balance of bacteria in the vagina, leading to infections. If you need to feel fresh, go ahead. But do not overdue it.

TOPIC: What do You do when the Trust is Gone?

As many of us know, trust is the bedrock of any relationship. When it diminishes or disappears, our emotional, mental, and sexual well-being can be impacted. But, rather than dwell on the challenge, let’s navigate the journey of rebuilding.

When trust is compromised, it’s usually due to specific actions or ongoing patterns. Regardless of the cause, healing and rebuilding are paramount.

Step 1: Acknowledge and Communicate: Recognize and admit the problem. Both partners need to discuss their feelings openly. When communicating, use ‘I’ statements, which prevent blame and facilitate understanding.

Exercise 1: “Feeling Check-in” Set aside a designated time each day for a ‘Feeling Check-in.’ Each partner gets 5 minutes to express their feelings, concerns, or fears without interruption. The other partner listens without becoming defensive. This encourages openness and active listening.

Step 2: Seek Professional Help: There’s no shame in seeking guidance. A counselor or therapist can offer valuable tools to understand and rebuild trust.

Step 3: Set Boundaries: Defining what is acceptable and what’s not is crucial. Discuss and mutually agree on boundaries that make both partners feel safe and respected.

Exercise 2: “Boundary Building On separate sheets of paper, each partner writes down their boundaries in different areas of the relationship. Swap sheets and discuss. This is not a negotiation but an understanding session. It’s about learning where your partner stands and vice versa.

Step 4: Rebuild Slowly: Healing takes time. Be patient with each other and understand that rebuilding trust is a process.

A lack of trust can also cast a shadow over sexual intimacy.

Intimacy is about feeling safe and connected. When trust is damaged, it can lead to a lack of desire, arousal challenges, or even physical discomfort.

To address this, consider the following:

  1. Reconnect Emotionally: Work on your emotional bond. This could mean spending quality time together, communicating, or attending therapy.”

Exercise 3: “Shared Experience Jar” Together, create a jar of shared experiences. Write down activities you both enjoy or want to try. Each week, pick one activity from the jar and do it together. These nurture shared experiences and deepen the bond.

  1. Start Slow with Intimacy: Gradually reintroduce intimacy. This could mean beginning with a non-sexual touch, progressing at a pace both partners are comfortable with.
  2. Practice Open Communication: Keep the lines of communication open during intimate moments. Always check in on each other’s comfort levels.

Rebuilding trust is undoubtedly challenging but not impossible. It demands patience, effort, and mutual respect. Always prioritize your emotional and sexual well-being.

Disclaimer: This in-depth article is meant to offer insights and information. It is not a substitute for individualized professional advice. Always consult a healthcare or mental health professional for personal concerns or issues.


Thank you for joining me on this episode of “Sexual Wellness for Women.” If you found the information valuable and enjoyed the discussion, I would truly appreciate it if you could take a moment to rate and review the episode. Your feedback helps me reach more people and spread the message of sexual wellness.

Remember, the more listeners we have, the more people I can help have their “ah-ha” moments when it comes to their sexual well-being. So, please share this podcast with your friends, family, and anyone who can benefit from our discussions.

And speaking of helping others, don’t forget to follow me on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and Wisdom. I share even more tips, tricks, and inspiration on these platforms to support you in your journey towards sexual wellness.

Lastly, I want to remind you that you are a wonderful sexual being. Embrace your uniqueness, take care of yourself, and prioritize your sexual well-being. Remember, pleasure and fulfillment are your birthright.

Thank you for tuning in, and I hope you have a passionate week ahead. I’ll catch you next time for more empowering conversations on “Sexual Wellness for Women.”

Looking to Increase Your Desire?

Check out The Desire Package:

Between our 1:1 chat and your blended flower essence combo created JUST FOR YOU, your desire can enjoy its boost in as little as 7 days.

Click here to learn more!